Thursday, November 14, 2013

Meat Montreal! The Girl Who Started it All!

Have you ever heard someone call a city...just another city!  I understand how the perpetual tourist eventually starts to feel this way.  A lot of touristy stuff feels the same after a little while.  There are only so many churches and museums one can handle.

As someone who has lived in different places,  I have have developed intimate relationships with them beyond that and I would argue that places are in fact much like people-not made of the same mold.  We connect with some, we dislike others, we fall in love with them  and YES, there is chemistry. I think the energy of the world circulates in places just as they do do in people.  The histories and stories of places mark them and leave behind traces. Some traces are obvious  like the monuments and buildings but some  are simply felt, not put into words and completely abstract. This is where that connection comes in.

In  a small miniseries of blog entries to follow, I will Introduce to all my cities personified! To start it all, meet Montreal!

Montreal-My hometown- She's my best friend! My old friend!

She has an uncanny sense of style- boho, sexy and classy mashed up in her eclectic way!  She tends to succeed at this with a  casual  veneer to her  manner. She is a North American girl. She is a European girl. She is old and she is new. She is frightfully cold at times.  Few people know how painfully hot she can also be!

She is openly conflicted.  She loves her diversity  and her complexity but on some days, she gets into an emotional frenzy about whether or not office microwave buttons should be in French or in English.

Friday nights, her European flair comes out. Her streets come to life and with all the people out about who  make her who she is.  She is easy going.  Go on, just bring your own bottle and dine in those charming little bistros.  It's cold out tonight! No matter!  Al the more reason to have a good time!

We are not always together but just like an old friend, I see her again and it is like nothing has changed.   We reconnect and bond over old memories and create new ones with the familiarity our relationship has.



Monday, November 11, 2013

Criticize My Hometown or Anywhere for That Matter!!! It's Your Right to Do So!

When moving somewhere new, the biggest and most daunting challenge is meeting people and integrating.  I think I am pretty good at that now but-that said-I don't fit in everywhere.   No one does!

The simple truth is that every person comes with a set of values.  Sometimes the places we live come into direct conflict with our core value system.  There is nothing wrong with that.  "To thy own self be true."   The fact is, someone can live in a place that, say  has a beautiful landscape, but if their dream is to live in a cultural hub.  It's not negative to see what a place has to offer and to realize that it is still an incompatibility.

I was inspired to write this because I read something earlier this week that got me a little peeved.  Someone had expressed that they were having difficulty making friends where they lived on a Facebook group page.  The hostile responses “If you don't like it go home” and “It was your choice to come here” at this request for help baffled me. It takes a lot of courage for someone to ask for help when they are feeling lonely.

Moving is hard and travelling is an adventure.   This means that there are bumps along the way and the person who embarks on a journey is taking a chance on life.  No matter how much research you do beforehand or how many contingencies you put into place, there is only one guarantee.  Things will not go according to plan!  It takes a certain type of person to take this leap and their courage and sense of adventure should be regarded positively. 

It is alienating for the person who does not like the place they are in.  They are often referred to as negative or someone who talks a lot of s****.  What ends up happening thereafter, is someone who is both afraid to be themselves and ends up feeling secluded.  This will certainly not help improve the perception they have of the place!


Being from Montreal, and currently living in Paris, my hometown gets a lot of praise. Every once in a while, however, someone tells me that they didn't like their experience there.   That's fine because it is not a reflection of myself.  It was their experience.  To all you locals out there anywhere, please meet criticism of your hometown with some understanding.  Just because someone does not like the place you come from, does not mean that they don't like you.  Also, remember, that being a foreigner comes with a different set of challenges than being a native does!

Friday, November 8, 2013

No Place is Perfect but There is Something to Love Everyewhere!

It's been a little over 3 years since I have lived in Montreal and I think that I more fond of it now than I was before.  Leaving home has helped me become aware all the wonderful things my city has to offer.  What we often think of as usual is actually particular to where we are, but there is no way to know that until we leave and delve into new places.    Below are the things I love most about Paris and the things I miss most about home.

The things I miss most about Montreal are:

1. How casual the people are.   I like the easygoing nature Quebec has.

2. Appliances.  I miss real working ovens that don't have built in microwaves and I miss having a dryer.

3. Kale.  There isn't much kale to speak of in France.  In fact, there is no word for kale in France!!

4. Sprouted Grains.  I miss the guiltless feeling of eating really healthy grains.

5.  The beauty of the Canadian natural landscape.  Now granted, this is not exactly Montreal but rather all of Canada.  I just remember the magnificence of being in an outdoor spa, in the middle of winter, while deer roam around in plain sight.  Whether you see Mountains on the West Coast or  the middle of a white, snowy and frosted forest in the East, Canada's natural beauty is truly unique and breathtaking.

6.  The ease and fluency that come with being at home.

7. The BYOB restaurants and the variety of Restaurants Montreal has.  I also love the all the new and innovative ways Montreal Chefs put stuff together.

8. The people.  I always miss the people I leave behind.


The things I love most about Paris:

1. How sophisticated and knowledgeable the people are.  There is a real interest in global issues, culture and the arts here.

2. The incredible transportation system Paris has.  There is a vast array of choice when it comes to getting from point A to point B: Metro, Bus, Velib (community bikes), RER (intercity trains)and Autolib (community cars).

3. Cheap and wonderful wine...and cheap and wonderful cheese of course.

4. Fresh baked Baguette from the Bakery...everywhere…on the corner of every block…in every neighborhood!!! No shortage or inconvenience there.
The guilty pleasure of eating warm French baguette! :)

5. Paris has the most amazing cultural scene I have ever witnessed EVER! There are so many posters and free newspapers advertising what is happening in this city, it could make your head spin.  You name it and you will find it: music, art, fashion, dance, sport or dining.  You will find something special happening on any day of the year.

6. The unknown and the excitement of discovering new things.

7. The fact that you can walk into a restaurant randomly and that chances of the food being yummy are favorable.

8. The people.  A lot of people travel through Paris.  Even though I have only been here a short time, I have had many wonderful reunions here already…and…well… 
I always miss the people I leave behind.